We’ve all been there at some point in our lives, the break up. They suck no matter what side your on. Ideally most people would like the relationship to end amicable and wish the other person a lifetime of happiness. Shake hands, hug and go your separate ways. After a break up there can be good lessons to learn . A life lesson and maybe something you never knew about yourself.
In my last relationship I had one of the nicest gifts given to me. It was my take away from that relationship. Something I will always appreciate no matter what. That gift was the cutest pink bike you ever laid your eyes on. Everywhere I rode that bike I always got so many compliments on it. The adorable pink bike would set the stage for what I know will be a lifetime of riding bikes. A joy in life I had no idea ever existed. It was a birthday gift for my 38th birthday (which was almost 6 years ago). It was restored and made just for me. Little did I know that gesture would save me from some of the most brutal depression I have ever had in my life.
When I received this gift it was like 6:30a.m. on my birthday, a ring of my door bell. I was peeved at first because it was so early. Then I saw the bike, not sure what my expression was but I was indeed shocked. Did I mention this bike was so stinking adorable? It looked like a bike you’d take on a romantic picnic date. There was wicker basket perfect for bread and wine, adorable comfy seat with hearts on it and a bell I could ring to my hearts desire. Before this bike, the last time I was on a bike was probably 20 years before that or even more.
Oh how I loved that heavy ass bike! It was so heavy and slow but I had so much fun trying to conquer that bike. The first time I rode it I fell off. Didn’t even make it a block. It was even fun falling down, I laughed so hard. I felt like a kid again. Once I got on the bike I felt such a happiness that I can’t explain. I felt free and carefree, no worries in the world except to make sure I didn’t fall off or get hit by a car.
Riding bikes has been such a blessing to me, it was my number one ally in fighting off some of the most brutal depression I ever had in my life. If it weren’t for bikes there would be days I would not have made it out of bed or even made it another day. Yes bikes saved my life. Why? Well because when I hit some really dark days I knew if I could at least make it to my bike I would feel better. If nothing else I would have something to focus on other that not wanting to be on the earth. Once I got on my bike I knew I was going to make it, that I would be ok. This one gift has set off a love for bikes I never knew I had in me. Unfortunately the pink bike didn’t make it out of the break up, it stayed behind. In some sense I was sad to leave it behind because it was the start of a wonderful love affair. As I was in a bike shop in search of my third bike I felt giddy just looking at the bikes and the thought of one going home with me made smile huge.
Today I am nowhere near my goal with riding, I hope to become a more skilled cyclist and maybe do some races or do so long rides, put some serious miles in. If I don’t reach my goals I will always have the city I love so much and my bike. These days I no longer ride to escape depression but I ride because I love to get on my bike and experience the city. It’s nothing for me to spend the whole day riding around. With out that relationship I would have never thought to get on a bike, I don’t know why, I just wouldn’t have. So in the end the relationship blew up and it didn’t work. From that relationship came some very tough lessons in love and life but it also gave me a new love, a love for bikes. I even have a cute little bike tattoo with the lifeline on it. I am working on my 5th tattoo that will most likely have some sort of bike element to it.
This weekend I spent much of my afternoon riding around enjoying the city, exploring the city, eating from some awesome BBQ food truck. I realized how lucky I am to have the life I have now. Depression is in remission now and the days are so much brightener. Who knew a bike would make such an impact on my life. So if you have not got on a bike in awhile or in forever try it as soon as you can. I promise you won’t regret it.